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Every man in America, at some point, has looked at porn. I mean, it surrounds us. From soft-core billboards and TV commercials to the hardcore skank magazines and websites. No matter what “level” your eyes fell upon, you can probably recall the images that were burned into your mind. That’s just one problem. Men are visual beasts and it feeds a darkness within them. Even worse, if twists their perception of how women think, and what they truly want.
Statistics are staggering at the number of marriages/relationships that have been destroyed, careers that have been ruined, families that have been devastated, by pornography.
In the documentary, “Somebody’s Daughter,” interviewee, Michael Cusick, said it best; “Pornography is addictive because it allows a man to FEEL like a man, without requiring him to be one.” In other words, he THINKS he’s desired by the opposite sex and it temporarily satisfies his longing to be a MAN. Purely plutonic. The reality is that he’s introduced comparison into his marriage, objectifies women, and thinks that life is all about sex….and being wanted. (Now, I realize it can be more complicated than this, but this is a blog and not a book.)
Being a real man DOES take work. It takes sacrifice, listening, genuine understanding, putting her needs before your own, speaking her “love language”, and cherishing her as you said you would on your wedding day. This turns her head (and desires) far more quickly than a false notion from pixels on a screen and subsequent role-playing in the bedroom.
Producing this documentary was excruciating. Here were people painfully opening up wounds, and in a spirit of humility and vulnerability, were recounting the dismantling of their marriages. John Evans was on camera and I was doing the interviews. For the married couple we interviewed, I felt terrible. In digging deeper and asking them personal questions about their journey, I felt like I was talking to this man about his “virtual” affairs in front of his wife. Painful. But they were so humble….so wanting to be used to warn others.
Produced for Music for the Soul, which is a Christian based non-profit ministry out of Nashville, the viewer can’t deny the grace of God at work in the lives of the folks on camera. Their message is convicting and inspiring at the same time. They share a journey into darkness, but one that doesn’t end there. On the contrary, it ends with redemption….and hope.
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